We meet again and this time with different point of view. Topic I wanna share today is about heartache. Well, it could happen to anyone in any age. Since heartache is a result of expectation. Do we both agree on this ?
i wont talk about my situation, I just wanna share some possibilities that will happen during this period of expectation. Some of friends contacted me directly asking for an advice about their current situation and I open my self for that (you can always come to me and I ll be your ears).
As I wrote on my previous one about “DIVORCE”, there are some stage you cant just jump out and forward it. And “heartache” is one of that point. There will be time when you cant hide you loneliness. A moment you wont be able to hold your tears of falling down.. a ”useless” feeling you cant resist. A trust issue that’s fill your mind or even a sarcastic answer about a new relationship (well, I ve been in that stage :P).
Then how we could keep survive on this situation ? well, the key if “acceptance”. The more we reject it, the more it will hurt you. At this point, the key person is you. The main advice is your heart. The main key is your brain. I wont say it will goes smooth and easy. Your mind will keep break all the “good things” you said to your self. Your mind will reject all the “motivational wise quotes” you keep feeding your self.
Well, take your time. Give your self a day or two to be drown in this situation. I guess it’s normal. You are not a super heroes or the captain marvel from the avenger ;). Don’t hide your feeling, let it go. Let it flow.. let the tears drop.. let the pillow become wet.. play the sad song playlist. Turn on your aromatic candle. You may scream, you may cries loud.. at this stage, you can do whatever you want. BUT, don’t let it control you. Don’t let it hurt other. Don’t decide anything. Don’t think about what will happen for the next 2 days. Because this is the unfinished chapter between you and your heart. Don’t let anyone in and don’t blame on other.
So, how its feel like to be “USELESS” in a real situation? Worse isn’t it? And its feel so bad to let your feeling controls your life. Well, I know how its feel. I wont write this if I haven’t feel it. But I get through this also. The greatest cure about this feeling is to forgive your self for feeling all of those things. That’s nothing wrong with you. Even a doctor needs a doctor. Feeling broken and heartache is not a loss. Feeling is not like a gamble. There is no “win” or “lose”. Its only about “learn” and “acceptance”.
One thing for sure, don’t hold your “feeling” too much. I’ve learn that FEELING is TEMPORARY.
Sadness is temporary
Happiness is temporary
Useless is temporary
Angry is temporary
Hating is temporary
Don’t let the “temporary” things control your life. Its not worth it. Cry if you need. Angry if you feel better about it. Hate if you feeling that. But please, don’t let it control you. Don’t let it hurt other. Don’t let it WIN over you.
Since life is about sometimes, enjoy the proccess