Around a week ago, I went to Jakarta for catch up with a friend and had little meeting with him. He is my old friend and we have good relationship until now. We knew each other since we were at University but getting close when we took our master degree. He studied in UGM Yogyakarta while I took mine at UNIKA Semarang.

He is a kind of person that I adore.. for his idea, his work and his commitment (both work or marriage). I attended his wedding in 2006 ( I guess ) and I knew his wife as well even not that close. We like to sharing, we share our idea about life, work, marriage, friendship, love and anything.. He is the first person who named and called me “Lala Chan”.. So, if name “Lala Chan” ring a bell for you, yes, that’s from him (^_^).

I don’t wanna talk about our business matter, I just wanna share about what we are talked about when we met last week. Honestly, I’m not an easy person for trust and having a long term relationship with a man, except with him. He knew me quite well since I’m still in relationship with my ex boyfriend and even now when I’m already married. He is my wine.. and I would like to share with you “my weekend with a wine”….. (and I prefer in Indonesia)

LIFE, LOVE and SELF…

Dalam kehidupan, kita sibuk mencari jawaban atas pertanyaan-pertanyaan. Kita sibuk menyiapkan diri kita untuk menjadi baik dimata orang lain atau lingkungan kita. Dan pertanyaan yang selalu kita ajukan kepada diri kita adalah “Kenapa begitu?”. I share this question with my wine then He said.. “For me, life is sometimes.. sometimes its dark.. sometimes its bright.. sometimes its night.. sometimes its morning.. sometimes its sad.. sometimes its happy”, then why you still worried about life? Karena kehidupan adalah “kadang-kadang”..

Actually I always questioning about things, until he told me “Mbok ben to La…, kenapa harus dipikir semuanya.. just let it go.. you waste your time by finding the answer.. why don’t you enjoy the questions it self?”. At that time, I’m just quiet but my mind keep thinking.. It’s true what he said to me.. I spend my time looking for an answer.. a logic one.. But in the end, it just me who feel tired and lost my energy.

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Ketika seseorang berbuat baik pada kita, kita selalu bertanya “Why you become so nice to me?”, then I realize, what if the answer is just “because I want to”. Bagaimana jika sebuah tindakan / pertanyaan / reaksi memiliki alasan yang sangat sederhana? Kehidupan ini sebenarnya sangat mudah, namun kitalah yang membuatnya menjadi rumit dengan “mempertanyakan”. Sekarang, sebelum saya memberi komentar akan sesuatu, I always tell to my self “Mbok ben to La..”

About success.. whats success? What I want in my life? Where I need to go after this? Then He said to me “Success is when you can sleep with a mind of peace”. Banyak orang berusaha keras untuk menjadi orang lain, karena merasa tidak berguna / tidak sukses / tidak kaya, dll. Sebenarnya apakah ukuran sukses tersebut? well, Life is just a process. If you not enjoy the process then where you gonna go after? Bukankah setiap menusia memang diciptakan untuk menjadi dirinya sendiri.. diluar apakah dia “berguna/tidak”, “kaya/tidak”, itu lain persoalan. Bagaimana mungkin meminta ikan untuk hidup di daratan? Karena ikan selalu berhubungan dengan air.. Dan itulah kita.. #JustBeOurSelf

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About Sex.. Banyak orang selalu mengedepankan “sex” sebagai suatu bukti ikatan antara pria dan wanita. Sex dijadikan sebagai obyek sehingga pertanyaan yang sering muncul adalah “is he/she good/bad in bed?”. For me, personally, Sex is not about “good/bad/ok/no”.. Sex is more than all of that.. Sex is about “enjoy or not enjoy”. Sex is a feeling you have with your partner and you wanna have/feel more intimacy with them.

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About Work.. Banyak dari kita yang masih menganggap bahwa “on the job training” is much better than “theory”. But what he said to me really change my perception. Banyak orang menganggap bahwa pengalaman adalah guru yang hebat (well, yes it is) tapi banyak juga “orang hebat” yang hanya menang dipengalaman namun kalah di teori. Dan itulah kasus yang terjadi dalam dunia kerja. Kaya pengalaman (lapangan) namun miskin di teori (analisa) dan akhirnya kinerjanya pun kurang optimal. Sebenarnya belajar dapat dilakukan dengan membaca buku, memperkaya wawasan sehingga dapat diimplementasikan ditempat kerja. Lihatlah orang-orang hebat disekitar kita, mereka masih membaca buku untuk memperkaya diri mereka. Jangan lupa kata pepatah bahwa “Buku adalah jendela dunia” and It’s true.

This past few month, I had big change in working life. Not a good end but It’s a good start. Everything should took as a lesson. Lesson to become wiser, greater and happier. My friends said that I’m more happier than i used to be. Even my husband told me the same thing. Then i realize, you become like the 5 people you spend your life with. Because Life is a journey, I enjoy the process.

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Well, many things that we discuss together but I can’t write it down all.. A book that really help me to understand about life its self is from Paulo Coelho “Manuscript Found in Accra”. This is the book that bring me out new perspective about life, love and self. Thanks to you for always give me good reference of book.

Love,

Lala

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You can check on quotes from Manuscript Found in Accra :

http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/21507847-manuscript-found-in-accra?page=1

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